We all need a sacred space in our homes where we can “be.” A place to simply breathe, brood and let life go on around us. But perhaps more than a physical space to do this in, we need to give ourselves the permission and Me Time to enjoy our own company, our own insights and our own gifts.
I’m thinking now of my fabulous purple suede lounge at our farm in Margaret River. I’ve got it set up to face the picture-glass windows overlooking the paddocks, rolling hills and adjacent forest. The sun spills in during the winter and forms a puddle over my seat where it becomes a magnet to drenching myself in “Goddess Time.”
I believe that taking time to daydream, ruminate, percolate and germinate is as healthy for your body as a 30-minute physical workout. It clears cobwebs, refreshes perspective, recharges self-love and appreciation, helps you own the moment, and re-centers your view of yourself in the world.
But then again, I would think that — I’m a pure Venus-born girl all the way. Just as the cat goddess Bast is the patroness of play, pleasure and sun-drenched corners, women born under the domain of Venus are attracted to anything that revolves around love, harmony and sensuality.
It’s no surprise that women born under the different goddess signs all have different hot buttons, naturally, and therefore different ways of coping with stress. Once you know what your goddess sign is, check out the following tips for avoiding that which makes you snarl.
Athena (March 21 – April 20)
Wow, for such a gifted goddess, you sure can be hard on yourself. Yes, you take bigger risks than others — for good reason and often with an above-average success rate — but be aware of how the stress of these risks takes its toll. Channel some of that assertive energy into rigorous sports and leisure pursuits.
Juno (April 21 – May 21)
It irks Juno (aka “My Way or the Highway”) when others can’t understand her tendency to avoid the group consensus. It’s understandable, really — there’s no point in compromising on social activities when there’s hard-earned money at stake, right? When you feel like you’re being railroaded, remember it’s sometimes easier to give in for now, but give yourself a little Self-Reward later on.
Persephone (May 22 – June 21)
In public, you are light, bright and outta sight — your smile is a magnet to the fluffy bunnies and fluffier conversation (which are great attributes for a cocktail function!). Equally wonderful about you Persephone gals is your ability to dive into the deep and gory details of a friend in trouble. Don’t forget about your own stresses, though — find a confidante and spill whatever worries may be on your mind!
Diana (June 22 – July 23)
Whose business is it of anyone’s but yours what you do with your free time? Ugh, there’s nothing worse than being cooped up with “rules” and “expectations” when there’s the wilderness to explore. Go on, girl, use your huntress power to tell predators where to go, and stride into that wide blue yonder to suit yourself. (Sorry, it’s not that I’m telling you what to do — of course, you can go to the kitchen, or the mall, or wherever it is that you need to be today.)
Pele (July 24 – Aug. 23)
Oooooh, watch out for that swirling, bubbling, toiling and troubling pool of lava that begins to stir when a Pele girl is crossed! You like being the queen of your domain, and you’re not afraid to send off warning shots of fire. If you’re in danger of erupting, head to a boxing gym or pump class, where you can let off steam safely.
Hestia (Aug. 24 – Sept. 23)
What’s cookin’, good lookin’? Oh, I was just joking! If the joshing about your “advanced domestic inclinations” bothers you, either lock everyone out of the kitchen or step outside into the garden and simply don’t look at the mess they’re making! While you’re in exile — ah, I mean, the garden — get yourself set up with a little vegetable patch or herb garden where you can while away your frustrations.
Venus (Sept. 24 – Oct. 23)
Oh, I knooooow, some people just don’t understand how important lounging in hammocks is for one’s health! There’s nothing that bugs you more than fastidious “doers,” always on the go with annoying little jobs and nagging you to do it with them! Before you settle into your latest hobby or pursuit, announce to all concerned that you’re taking Goddess Time, and hang the metaphysical “Do Not Disturb” sign around your space.
Bast (Oct. 24 – Nov. 22)
Tsk, tsk, tsk — it’s always fun and games until someone loses their claw in the curtains. Bast girls love being playful but within limits — you have a clear understanding of your boundaries. If others cross those boundaries, they’ll soon see the claws of your patroness cat goddess. Rather than scratching someone’s eyes out, unwind by sharpening those claws in your journal!
Rhiannon (Nov. 23 – Dec. 21)
I dunno, but “supertramp” always comes to mind when I think of Rhiannon girls — you’re the free-wheeling, free-dealing, free-spirited creatures that are partial to the more carefree pursuits: the horse-riding, tomb-raiding, picnic-packing, fairy-spotting type. Who cares if you don’t brush your hair or match your socks? Your greatest stress-busting technique is to ignore those who insist you stand on ceremony.
Demeter (Dec. 22 – Jan. 20)
Demeter girls are among the most passionate natures in the goddess collective. Once they’ve taken a cause to heart, there’s no stopping their efforts to achieve their goals. Burnout is the big danger for these girls, so a relaxing hobby is the best bet to help calm the nerves. Using your hands in nature is good for you, and it helps you feel like you’re contributing to a greener future (and therefore fulfilled.)
Hathor (Jan. 21 – Feb. 19)
Hathor girls are expert at putting on the socially acceptable “face” that is required at each minute — you are shape-shifters, after all, and that’s just what you do. Get infected with a spark of magic, though, and watch that “propriety” become a challenge to the status quo! Align yourself with other who like to think creatively, and dance to the beat of your own drum.
Oshun (Feb. 20 – March 20)
Splish, splash, we’re taking a bath. Oh yes, Oshun girl, soak away those stresses of the day with water play of some sort. Being sensitive to your environment, of course it can be difficult to be around harsh behavior of any sort. So it’s only natural that you’re drawn to floating above all of that heavy stuff — who needs a ball-and-chain of earthly concerns when you could be escaping into a world of water?