The search for the inner goddess isn’t an ego-centric thing like wanting to be worshipped. It’s more a way to understand your own femininity, strength and wisdom and to give yourself permission to assert these gifts to empower your life.
The easiest way to connect with your inner goddess?
From personal experience one of the easiest ways to keep your inner goddess glowing is to keep balanced chakras – the energy centres in the body that perform important physiological and psychological functions.
I use a range of tools in my Goddess For Life coaching sessions that inspire key elements of a balanced life: foundation, passion, vitality, connection, expression, trust and wisdom. These are all attributes of the major chakras and are a key to achieving a state of bliss.
Your base chakra forms your foundation – it is related to survival instincts, your sense of grounding and connection of your body and the earth.
If your life is in turmoil, or your self-confidence is under threat, ask your inner-Kali to energise your willpower. Kali is the ancient Hindu goddess of destruction but represents strength, intention and insight. She helps you purge elements of destruction in your life and reclaim your independent spirit by directing your life onto a new path – your true path where you can discover health, prosperity, security and a dynamic presence.
As the base chakra resonates to the colour red and is located at the base of the spine, wear red underwear, paint your toe-nails red, or stomp your feet in the earth to the beat of a primal rhythm. Use an affirmation such as “I am grounded and secure” to achieve a solid foundation for your life.
Passion for what you’re doing inspires creativity and a sense of self-worth. Passion is about living with intention and being able to prioritise what really matters.
It’s also about looking in the mirror and loving the person you see. The feminine divine is housed in the sacral chakra, so learning to accept that you’re a wondrous woman no matter what your size or shape is an area a lot of women like to work on.
The Babylonian goddess Ishtar is one goddess that inspires lovers everywhere to connect with the feminine divine. Her energy encompasses all that is ‘woman’ – nurturing mother, loyal companion, playful partner, dear friend, wise advisor, insightful leader and wild woman.
In the “Build a Bridge and Fly Over It” series of coaching sessions, I remind women that it’s OK to let their wild woman get air-time every now and then. They love it – hips start rolling and gyrating and the laughing gets louder and more spontaneous, which of course are both great ways to energise the sacral chakra.
Personal power is housed in the solar plexus chakra – the place where anxiety manifests as ‘butterflies’. If you’re feeling manipulated or ignored, this threatens your self-definition resulting in reduced vitality. But when the solar plexus chakra is charged, it is easy to feel invincible as the life of the party.
I liken this to goddess Pele’s energy, the goddess whose spirit dwells inside the largest active volcano in Hawaii. She is subdued one minute, fiery the next – a bit like me really (and every woman I know!)
Pele lies dormant until her energy is harnessed and unleashed – just like a woman who has asked herself the question, “is this situation really deserving of my fear?” Once a situation that has been crippling vitality is resolved, inspired energy is the result.
If you look in the mirror and only see faults then that’s what others will see too. You won’t exude that aura of self-acceptance that promotes connection with others.
And that, quite simply, is one of the main reasons hearts get broken. How can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself first? To promote self-love, I recommend you get your heart chakra pumping with the Chinese goddess of compassion, Kwan Yin.
Kwan Yin represents meaningful connection and the sharing of truth between women and men, parents and children, individuals and the greater community. Her message is to forgive past transgressions and give up negative attitudes that prevent you from growing as a person. Learn compassion and make the choice to be more heartfelt with others to fly free from the cacoon that binds you.
There is a Celtic goddess called Rhiannon that caught the attention of her future husband while riding her mare one day. According to the myth, he rode for days to catch up with her, but it was only when he yelled out for her to stop that she did. When he complained, she simply said, ‘it would have been better for your horse had you asked long before this.’
Her lesson is to ask for what you want, don’t expect it to land in your lap. Rhiannon scorns those who do not, or will not, ask for what they want.
One tool to help you find your voice and speak your truth is to wear lapis lazuli or topaz pendants. Express what is bugging you, or what it is you need – swallowing your words and keeping your voice locked inside doesn’t help anyone, let alone your cause.
How many times a day do you find yourself churning over a decision you’ve made?
Any self-doubt is a guaranteed way to block the third-eye chakra. A healthy third-eye chakra lets you see the big picture and understand your place in the world, but first you must accept that your intuition, your inherent wisdom, has led you to make the right decisions.
For this, I introduce my clients to the Egyptian High Priestess, Isis. Isis helps you trust in your own intuition and wisdom and gives you the courage to act on your instincts.
I recommend you access Isis’ energy by using a divination tool to confirm what you already know. This way you can quell any self-doubt that you are making the right decisions. Then the next time a decision is called for you can make it with confidence and without that teeth-gnashing angst.
There are many forms of knowledge – cognitive, emotional, intuitive, for example. But ‘wisdom’ is a whole new level of understanding that transcends the physical plane.
It’s about understanding yourself and others, having a connection to the Universe, and finding a sense of oneness with all. By entering the greater world beyond, that timeless, spaceless place of all-knowing, be warned: you may experience a sense of profound bliss.
Nuit’s a great goddess to use for this purpose. I describe Nuit as a bridge between heaven and earth. I ask my clients to visualise reaching for the stars and falling into her loving embrace. It never fails – they always come out of our sessions walking on air and in love with themselves again.